Mom and Dad

Mom and Dad

My father could not wait until the day her retired. Retirement for him meant enjoying the fruits of his labor. Spending more time with his wife, family and friends. Through his life, my father was a dedicated man to his family, his job and his responsibility. In his retirement he enjoyed gardening, building cabinets, shopping with my mom and just relaxing with his family.

Just as my father started to enjoy his retirement, he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s Disease. He was always proud of the fact that he never forgot a name. But towards the end he could not even remember his wife or her name. He never complained about a thing. In my father’s eyes I could see that he was scared. I feel that deep inside he realized that things were changing. That something was wrong.

My mother, on the other hand, happy go lucky, did not inform anyone about the changes that were taking place with my dad. It was almost like the two of them stuck together. My mother tried to keep everything a secret.

When my parent’s friends would comment that my father was becoming repetitive, my mother would say, “you think so?” “I have not noticed”. She was in fear that someone would take my father away. She would be alone. She did not know how to deal with the situation. Maybe she thought that my father would get better. After years of taking care of my dad, she still tried to do it alone. She told me that she did not invision her retirement to be like this. She did not realize how important it is to let your physician and family know immediately when you start to see any signs of memory loss in a spouse or loved one.

Through this difficult disease, our family somehow managed to get through. Because of this personal experience, I realized and learned quickly that better quality care was needed in our community. Higher quality assistance was needed to help families like ours that are emotionally stretched between their own daily lives and caring for a loved one. More compassion, respect and understanding is required for those fighting this horrible disease.

My father fought a long battle with Alzheimer’s. He made us promise that if anything should ever happen where he could not take care of himself, to please allow him the dignity to remain in his home with family. Not with strangers. We kept our promise. When he passed away, he did so in the comfort of his own home, in his own bed. Surrounded by all of us.

This is one of the reasons I opened a home care agency in Lake County IL. Hearts of Gold Home Care, dedicated to the memory of my dad. I strongly believe that unless a person walks a mile in your shoes, they cannot understand the stress and challenges in dealing with the care of a loved one that has Alzheimer’s Disease.

Through our personal family experience I became an expert on home care, physicians, home health care, resources, information, support and ways to handle and cope with the unmanageable task of caring for another person and their needs. At Hearts of Gold Home Care our clients are treated just like our family.

Seniors do not realize that there are many options for care today. An illness may not neccessarily prevent you from remaining in the comfort of your own home. Communicating your wishes to your children is very important. But more important, it’s allowing others to help you. To help you retain your dignity and provide you with options, choices and support.

When a person can no longer be independent. It affects not only the senior family member, but the family as a whole. Everyone’s life changes. We try to manage the unmanageable. We try to do it alone. You are not alone.

Option4care is dedicated to providing families with information, support, resources, solutions and please share your comments, stories and your own personal experience with us. Welcome! We are here to help. http://www.heartsofgoldhomecare.com


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